{"id":1439,"date":"2025-03-06T11:19:09","date_gmt":"2025-03-06T16:19:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/openrelationship.com\/blog\/?p=1439"},"modified":"2025-03-06T11:19:10","modified_gmt":"2025-03-06T16:19:10","slug":"tiktok-debate-why-do-people-in-open-relationships-look-like-that","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/openrelationship.com\/blog\/tiktok-debate-why-do-people-in-open-relationships-look-like-that\/","title":{"rendered":"TikTok Debate: Why Do People in Open Relationships \u2018Look Like That\u2019?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>A viral TikTok has sparked a heated discussion about open relationships, appearance stereotypes, and dating dynamics. The debate began when TikToker\u00a0<strong>@realandrewbriggs<\/strong>\u00a0posted a video questioning why people in open relationships &#8220;look like that.&#8221; His comments, which mix curiosity with a bit of blunt humor, have racked up millions of views and ignited strong reactions across social media.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p>Some in the open relationship community are laughing it off, others are diving into the deeper implications of his remarks, and a few are outright offended. Below are two responses that capture the range of emotions from this unexpected controversy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let&#8217;s explore some of the responses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>TikToker Minniemadam seemed to take the jabs in jest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"tiktok-embed\" cite=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@maddlyminnie\/video\/7460029828864118062\" data-video-id=\"7460029828864118062\" style=\"max-width: 605px;min-width: 325px;\" > <section> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"@maddlyminnie\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@maddlyminnie?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">@maddlyminnie<\/a> Don&#39;t trip <a title=\"polyamorytiktok\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/polyamorytiktok?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#polyamorytiktok<\/a> <a title=\"polyamorytok\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/polyamorytok?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#polyamorytok<\/a> <a title=\"stitch\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/stitch?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#stitch<\/a> <a title=\"nonmonogamy\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/nonmonogamy?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#nonmonogamy<\/a>  @Andrew <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"\u266c original sound - \ua9c1M\u0e04\u2202e\u0362\u0362\u0362li\u0e20e\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/music\/original-sound-7460029858190461738?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">\u266c original sound &#8211; \ua9c1M\u0e04\u2202e\u0362\u0362\u0362li\u0e20e<\/a> <\/section> <\/blockquote> <script async src=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<p>She also said that she took it as a joke and feels the open relationship look is  &#8220;a bit alternative and open to many concepts.&#8221; Her positive vibes are certainly contagious. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now, a therapist has a take which says that maybe some of the similarities are due to the common thread that open relationship groups have with defiance of social norms. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"tiktok-embed\" cite=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@enby_therapist\/video\/7460528489922415902\" data-video-id=\"7460528489922415902\" style=\"max-width: 605px;min-width: 325px;\" > <section> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"@enby_therapist\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@enby_therapist?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">@enby_therapist<\/a> My two cents on this conversation <a title=\"therapist\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/therapist?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#therapist<\/a> <a title=\"mentalhealth\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/mentalhealth?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#mentalhealth<\/a> <a title=\"longervideos\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/longervideos?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#longervideos<\/a> <a title=\"mentalhealthmatters\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/mentalhealthmatters?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#mentalhealthmatters<\/a> <a title=\"support\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/support?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#support<\/a> <a title=\"poly\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/poly?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#poly<\/a> <a title=\"conversation\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/conversation?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#conversation<\/a> <a title=\"trending\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/trending?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#trending<\/a> <a title=\"life\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/life?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#life<\/a> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"\u266c original sound - Lee Tepper, LISW-S\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/music\/original-sound-7460528379436059422?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">\u266c original sound &#8211; Lee Tepper, LISW-S<\/a> <\/section> <\/blockquote> <script async src=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<p>Kind of a cool way to look at it, we suppose!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">So, what&#8217;s our take?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>As one of the leading connection sites for the open relationship community, we\u2019ve seen our fair share of viral discussions\u2014and, honestly, we think we\u2019re all pretty attractive. Maybe that\u2019s our real common trait!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But on a more serious note, this conversation highlights a broader issue: the ongoing social misconceptions about open relationships. The media and Hollywood have long painted a skewed picture of non-monogamy, often reinforcing stereotypes that don\u2019t reflect reality. Because of that, comments like these\u2014and the debates they spark\u2014are bound to happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That said, we can\u2019t help but appreciate the humorous and confident responses from the open relationship community. Instead of getting defensive, many have taken this as an opportunity to poke fun, challenge outdated assumptions, and showcase just how self-assured and diverse this community really is. And that\u2019s something worth celebrating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We love you all! Even the ones who look exactly the same!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A viral TikTok has sparked a heated discussion about open relationships, appearance stereotypes, and dating dynamics. The debate began when TikToker\u00a0@realandrewbriggs\u00a0posted a video questioning why people in open relationships &#8220;look like that.&#8221; His comments, which mix curiosity with a bit of blunt humor, have racked up millions of views and ignited strong reactions across social [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1442,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1439","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-swinger-lifestyle-news"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v20.0 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>TikTok Sparks Debate on Open Relationships &amp; Appearance Stereotypes<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"A viral TikTok questions why people in open relationships &quot;look like that,&quot; sparking humor and outrage. 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